Matt walked in the door Friday with two sets of roses, 1 dozen red and 1 dozen hot pink. He said he was waiting for someone to ask him why two sets so he could say, 'one is for my girlfriend and one is for my wife.' He then smiled at me and said, 'good thing you're both.'
This 'idea' has been on my heart and mind and so it's only fitting that I share it with you for Valentine's day.
The idea? Are you your husband's girlfriend?
Think about it. Are you?
I have to say I haven't always been my husband's girlfriend. Sure that is how our relationship started out, for five years I was his girlfriend. And then we got married and went through those newlywed years where we were very much still dating and discovering and pursuing. And then we settled into a routine of being married, worked at our careers, built our home and then ... became parents. And then we floundered, trying to find our bearings and discover what it meant to be a couple in the midst of raising a child. So no, I haven't always been my husband's girlfriend. I haven't always flirted with him, given him the special attention I should, put extra effort into my actions, my looks, my service to him. And you know what? I know very clearly when those times are. The spark just isn't there.
The good news? It doesn't take much for that spark to re-ignite.
Just start thinking about being your husband's girlfriend rather than his wife or mother to his children. Think about going on a date. Plan a date (even make a date night at home). Pick out something new for a date (maybe even something he may not notice until later on in the date, uhm hum). Have FUN on your date. Flirt. Laugh. Smile. Hold Hands. Share dessert. All those things you did while dating ... remember? Even better? The date doesn't have to end ... you get to go home together.
I know not every night can be date night, but you can flirt with your husband everyday. You can make sure you're 'connecting' several times a week. You can spend time laughing and talking. Sharing a favorite show, playing a game or just having hot chocolate together.
It's no secret recipe, it's tried and true and it works.
And trust me, it's really nice to be your husband's girlfriend and not just his wife.
Happy Valentine's Weekend!
6 comments:
So sweet! I love that he got you 2 sets of roses - nicely done Matt!
love! sometimes brother-in-law(s) are pretty stellar- woo woo Matt. and I can't agree with your words more, great advice on your blog and at my bachelorette party. love you!
Too sweet! Love that reminder :) I'm still in that "newlywed" phase so it's nice to always remember the little things!
Love you!
perfect valentine's post. Shawn and I went on a valentine's date and spent some well needed time together. love your roses!
What a guy! Jason gave me and each of the girls flowers for V-day. It was so sweet, the girls had huge smiles on their faces and so did I. Future boyfriends of the my girls are going to have a lot to live up to. ;o)
And some people take offense when guys say the have "girlfriends" when they're married!! If only they knew!
Our church has had a couple of great messages on Staying In Love and Making Love...a verb!
It's such a good reminder, especially after being invaded by children. We're pretty good about it but it's definitely been harder the past 6 years.
We're pretty fortunate to have such great guys!
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